A few years ago I created a list of the most common mistakes I believe women make when preparing for a Boudoir Session…or when preparing to even consider the possibility of a Boudoir Session. I will break down all seven points into a series of blog posts in order to shed light onto some of the fear that may surround the idea of experiencing a photo shoot of your very own. Click HERE to read past posts in this series.
4. MOST WOMEN HAVE A NASTY LITTLE HABIT OF COMPARING THEMSELVES TO OTHER WOMEN
Oh yay, the power of comparison; that nasty little (or loud as f*ck) voice in our head that consistently tries to tear us down by measuring ourselves to everyone, everywhere. Here’s the thing, you can be anything but you can’t be everything. When we compare ourselves to others, we’re often comparing their best features against our average ones. It’s like being right-handed and trying to play an instrument with your left hand. Not only do we naturally want to be better than them, the unconscious realization that we are not often becomes self-destructive.
Look, I get it. Staying in our own lane isn’t always easy, especially when there are so many shiny distractions all around us. It takes a lot of self awareness and control to become mindful of the ways in which this game of comparison slowly erodes at our self esteem. However, it’s simply not worth it because quite honestly, the only thing we can truly excel in is becoming the best version of ourselves. Cliche, I know, but oh so true. Let me say it this way: there is one thing that you’re better at than other people: BEING YOU. This is the only game you can really win. When you start with this mindset the world starts to look better again. No longer are you focused on where you stand relative to others. Instead, your focus and energy is placed on what you’re capable of now and how you can improve yourself.
So what does this have to do with Boudoir Photography? Imagery is powerful. It can transform the way we see the world, but more importantly, the way we see ourselves. Here’s the truth, ladies: celebrating that you are THE ONE AND ONLY YOU is liberating. There is freedom in surrendering and accepting yourself as you are right now. You might find comfort in this very personal blog post about my own journey with self image and photography. I get it, I really truly do.
Ready to kick that nasty little voice of comparison to the curb and embrace your unique beauty? Let’s chat about it…